At the Web Build Pages blog, Jen writes about how link building is like picking up women. She explains the parallels:

* The opening line is everything -- not much else needs to be said.

* That the right circumstance are also crucial (you need finesse) -- women who are surrounded by friends are harder to get than women who are alone. You need to find the sites that are small and accessible.

* Insecurity helps you go further: By showing that you're not interested, you are piquing interest in the other party. If you let them know that they "forgot" your link, you're exploiting a vulnerability.

* You need to prepare for rejection. Not all sites will give into the request.

And as MikeDammann says, that's why nofollows are like condoms.

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